The Surprising Secret to Better Sex for Christians


I’ll bet you’re here because you want to have better sex in your marriage.

Who doesn’t, right?

But everything–kids, money, jobs, life–it ALL can get in the way and make our married sex lives dull, boring or even non-existent.

The truth is that it is possible to have a great married sex life!

There’s one BIG secret to that amazing level of intimacy we all crave…

And that’s what speaker and marriage author Sue Detweiler is sharing about here!

This post is an adapted excerpt of Sue’s book 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage.

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage: How to Build a Relationship that Lasts9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage: How to Build a Relationship that Lasts

Read Sue’s incredible story (on this very private subject!):

During a premarital seminar we attended, I remember a man saying, “In the beginning, we weren’t very good at making love.” However, he also encouraged, “You get better at it.”

That man was right.

As my husband and I grew together and got to know each other physically, as well as emotionally and spiritually, we came to understand that every life-giving marriage is connected to the ultimate Life-Giver—the One who made sexual intimacy in marriage to be a holy experience.

And as part of that growth, we’ve also discovered a powerful truth that has brought incredible healing and given us a more passionate marriage that we never thought possible.

Want better sex in your marriage? We've learned it takes time... and this surprising secret that so many couples miss. You've got to read this post from international Christian speaker and author Sue Detweiler. By sharing her and her husband's testimony, you'll discover a powerful truth that can bring incredible healing and a more passionate marriage than you ever thought possible!

Our Path Towards Better Sex

In 1990, our house caught fire with my newborn daughter and me inside. Trapped by smoke and flames, I was unable to get to my baby in her crib. Thankfully, my husband came home in time. he and a fireman rescued both of us from the fire. You can read more about this event in 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom.

Our marriage went from low-grade stress to an over-the-top stress level.

Not only were we fighting with our insurance company to pay for the damages of our home, we fought with each other every day.

Our newborn daughter developed colic, screaming inconsolably for hours at a time. Emotionally numb, we struggled to survive each day as we stumbled through our pastoral duties. Our own need for healing, individually and as a couple, made us less effective in our ministry.

Our sex life shifted from difficult to nonexistent.

Have you ever felt like this? Here’s how to build your marriage little by little–even during the toughest times!


As a new mother with milk-engorged breasts and an overweight body, I felt more like a feeding station than a vibrant, sensual young woman. Pregnancy and childbirth brought changes in my hormones and left painful, physical reminders that made the thought of sex completely unappealing.

The stress from fire pushed our relationship over the edge.

Both Wayne and I knew we needed help if our marriage was going to work.

So here’s what we did.

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