10 Ways for Moms to Get Some Peace and Quiet
1) Stop expecting it.
You may laugh, but it’s true. Alright, let me clarify: Stop expecting it all the time.
It is impossible to believe that a home full of kids will be perpetually filled with peace and quiet. This was one of those hidden, unspoken mom hangups I had lurking in my subconscious.
One day I realized that I was expecting my kids to be always quiet and peaceful when this is truly against their passionate, vibrant little natures (my husband and I definitely did not birth wallflowers).
The sheer fact of lowering my expectations and embracing the chaos has, in effect, brought more acceptance of the noise. Maybe not less physical noise, but definitely some peace and quiet in my soul.
2) Teach kids to value both quiet and loud play.
I’m a firm believer in two kinds of play: loud and quiet.
Obviously, loud play is not something we have to teach a child. But quiet play? Definitely.
This takes more intentionality and creativity on our parts (and a true getting-to-know of each child). Some kids have an easier time playing quietly than others.
While I’m always striving to help a child increase their list of “quiet” activities, I’m also equally learning to accept each child’s individual capacity for quiet play. Some kids are just active (especially depending on their age and stage)… and active usually means more noise.
However, that still doesn’t mean that quiet play is impossible for them. Which leads me to the next tip…
3) Encourage a daily quiet time.
Do you have a designated time each day where everyone finds their own space and naps, reads, journals, draws (or otherwise plays quietly)? Oh, this has been a godsend in our home.
This idea is an adaptation of “nap time.” Nap time was my lifesaver in those first few mothering years. I truly think I would have gone insane without it!
For one hour in the afternoon, there is no electronics, no squabbling, no needing of mom–just peace and quiet. OK, most of the time.
4) Get up early.
If you really love peace and quiet, there’s no better time than the early morning (I know, I know… the non-morning people just rolled their eyes).
Alright, here’s my two-second pitch for getting up early:
- You can have uninterrupted quiet.
- There are no kids running around.
- No one interrupts you and telling you that the other person stole their LEGOs.
- Or ate their food when they weren’t looking.
- Or just keeps poking them with that toy that you thought you already took away.
In the early morning, it’s just you and… you. Getting up early works for me (and here are my tips to make the most of the time).
Yes, getting up early means we need to go to bed earlier.
5) Get outside.
Listen to life outside your four walls, ideally without a child around.
It’s true that none of us can just run away to Tahiti every afternoon and listen to the sound of the swaying palm trees. But how can you experience nature near your home?
Nature doesn’t have to be time spent walking through a perfect meadow or an idyllic mountain scene (although a walk through nature like this is incredibly refreshing). Perhaps it’s as simple as going outside and listening to the birds. Or (depending on where you live) even the sounds of people walking by.
Whatever would be a switch from the noise inside.
And while you’re outside, I’d suggest bringing a cup of tea with you. Because, you know, life is just better with tea (especially with this Chocolate Mint Tea… my all-time favorite!).
And speaking of what fills your cup…
Don’t miss the other 5 tips! I know these will make all the difference for you as well…