How to Flirt with Your Husband (18 Fun & Easy Ways)

Ladies, after more than 16 years of marriage, I’ve learned that there’s a fine art to knowing how to flirt with your husband.

I mean, in the dating years, flirting with your man seemed so simple, right?

You smiled. You made lighthearted jokes. Flirting was so natural.

You assumed that flirting with your husband would always be easy, right?

But, if you and your husband are like most couples, life changed after marriage (and certainly after kids). You got out of the routine and, suddenly, flirting became second to keeping up with the chaos of family life.

I want to help you recapture that spark in your marriage by encouraging you with some great tips on how to flirt with your man.

I believe flirting with your husband is the best way to keep friendship and fun the focus of your marriage!

Check out these 18 fun and easy tips (plus lots of great resources and ideas) on how to flirt with your husband today.

Bring lightness and fun back to your marriage!

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Flirting with Your Husband: It’s About More Than Sex

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: (And You Thought Bad Girls Have All the Fun)The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex: (And You Thought Bad Girls Have All the Fun)

If you’re looking for a great resource on how to have better sex in Christian marriage, I would highly recommend The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex by Sheila Gregoire.

This book is informative without being dirty. And yes, of course, it can be a great help in learning how to flirt with your husband

I’m all for having good sex. But honestly, flirting–like marriage–can be about so much more than just physical intimacy.

Discover that and you’ll feed the fire of sexual intimacy as an awesome extra!

Let’s talk more about what flirting (that doesn’t lead to sex) can look like.

 

What Does Flirting With Your Spouse Look Like?

We often think that flirting with our spouse has to mean bringing flowers, sending love notes and sexy lingerie. Sure those things are nice, but that doesn’t have to be all that flirting is. And flirting doesn’t have to be anything huge!

Flirting is about knowing what makes your spouse smile. What makes their day. What would be a help to them.

Check out this video for a fun flirting idea (something fun my husband and I spontaneously did together)!

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Here’s the real question:

What makes your husband feel loved? What are his love languages? What does he love about you?

And, alternatively, share with him what makes you feel loved!

Discover those things about each other, and find little ways to turn these into flirting moments!

I promise that learning how to flirt with your spouse can be an easy and fun habit to work into your everyday relationship.

What If My Spouse Never Flirts With Me?

I totally hear you. We are busy, stressed people and marriage isn’t always about one big flirt-fest. My spouse also travels a bit, so flirting in person isn’t always a possibility.

You just do your part. You be the one to flirt first. Don’t worry about if your husband isn’t reciprocating right away, or if it isn’t equal. Flirting with your husband may even be a sacrifice at first. That’s fine.

Just do one thing today to flirt with your husband. And then tomorrow, do another.

If it’s difficult, ask God to renew your hearts and to rediscover flirting as a way to regularly show love. Learning how to flirt with your husband an important way to strengthen your relationship!

18 Easy Ways to Flirt With Your Husband Today

Flirting with your husband doesn’t have to be confined by a set of “dos” and “don’ts.”

Every couple has different ways to flirt and show love to each other! Relax, have fun flirting with your husband (and let these 18 fun flirty ideas inspire you)!

1) Just-Between-You Jokes. You know the ones. When one of you says that phrase from that movie, it makes you laugh and giggle (and no one else knows why)!

2) A Smile. My hubby has this little grin. And when he shows me that authentic smile from across the room, my heart melts!

3) Special Outfit. I know there are certain outfits that he likes that I wear. And sometimes I “encourage” him to wear a certain shirt (because he looks really cute in it). It’s fun to wear something that you know your husband thinks you look great in it.

4) Do Chores for Each Other. No, really! When I was growing up, my mom had a refrigerator magnet that said, “I love a man with dishpan hands.” I never fully understood that until I had a sink of dirty dishes facing me every day! If my husband cleans up the kitchen unexpectedly, I am one happy wife.

5) Cologne. I really, really like it when my husband wears a certain cologne. I always joke with him, “You smell too good to leave this house.” Speaking of that…

6) Enjoy being sexual together. What is the best frequency for you as a couple? It’s not about comparing ourselves to other couples. Married sex is also not about lust, but about connection. It’s so easy to let making love slide as a priority, but my husband and I have found that regular times of making love bring much needed closeness and keep the spark alive between us.

P.S. Can I suggest these posts as places to get more perspective on the very sensitive (but so important) topic of married sex?

7) Write “Just Because” Texts. A “just thinking of you” text in the middle of the day is always awesome. Or even little things like letting him know you’re praying for him can go a long way.

8) Love notes. Love these little notes! Or even a post-it note works! Sometimes I put a quick love note in my husband’s suitcase if he’s traveling, or I put them on his desk in our home office. This post has lots of fun spins on the love note idea!

9) Spontaneous Physical Affection. Sometimes I stop to give my husband a hug while I’m making dinner. Or I’ll go into his office and give him a quick hug and kiss. Not anything that will lead to something huge, but just ways to keep the fire going.

10) Laugh! You’ve got to admit it–life is just darn funny sometimes. It seems like there’s always something extra crazy to laugh about going on at our house. We also have a handful of movies we watch from time to time that crack us up and keep us laughing.

11) Regular Chat Times. My love languages are quality time and words of affirmation. So flirting to me often equals 15 minutes alone with my spouse to talk about the day. And speaking of chatting…

12) Read the Bible Together. Each week, we try to spend several times together discussing God’s word and praying over our family. I shared about that here (and how to make couples devotions a regular habit–one without guilt!).

13) Holding hands.  We try to do this while watching a movie, walking into church, going on a hike, etc. With four kids around us, it’s not easy, but when we remember to do it, it’s a wonderful way to flirt. Here’s more resources on how to be more physically affectionate with your spouse.

14) Sit close to each other. We heard at a marriage conference once that our brains are affected on a chemical level when we simply holds hands with our spouse or somehow let our bodies touch. That’s amazing to me!

15) Massage. Sure, there can be dedicated times of couples massage (here are some great couples massage tips!) but everyday things like rubbing his neck while he’s driving are simple and easy ways to flirt with my husband!

16) Talk about it! Share ideas! Tell each other what you like!

17) Keep your relationship light and your friendship strong.

18) Regularly enjoy date nights and other fun times alone (here’s how we make it happen… even as busy parents of four kids!).

Other Awesome Books to Help You Learn How to Flirt with Your Husband

The Mediterranean Love Plan: 7 Secrets to Lifelong Passion in MarriageThe Mediterranean Love Plan: 7 Secrets to Lifelong Passion in MarriageRed-Hot Monogamy: Making Your Marriage SizzleRed-Hot Monogamy: Making Your Marriage Sizzle

Other Marriage Posts That Can Inspire Flirting

54 Romantic Movies to Watch with Your Spouse

130 Creative Ways to Say I Love You to Your Spouse 

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About Alicia Michelle

As a wife and mom to four passionate kids, Alicia Michelle loves encouraging other moms with practical tips for joy-filled living in everyday life, especially in parenting, marriage, faith and health.Alicia is the owner/editor of Your Vibrant Family; the author of Plan to Be Flexible, The Back to School Survival Manual; and the creator/producer of the "7 Days to a Less Angry Mom Online Video Course,", Christ-Centered Christmas Resources and My Memory Box Organizing System. In addition, she is a monthly contributor for several popular family blogs, including Crosswalk.com.Follow her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest.

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