8 Ways to Stay Emotionally Replenished in Every Mothering Season

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8 Ways Moms Can Stay Emotionally Replenished Through Every Mothering Season

1) Live for more than the now.

Remember when I was telling you about the two big secrets to making rest a regular part of your life? This is the first one, and it is life-changing. Truly.

You were created with a purpose. You are more than just a mom, but you are a person with a soul and a reason for being on this earth.

True, right now, a big part of that purpose is to be the best mom and wife you can be. But ultimately, you were created as God’s child with a purpose and destiny that far extends these child-rearing years.

What does this have to do with staying rested and replenished? Everything, because often replenishment, rest (and ultimately acceptance) come when we can step back from the trees to see the forest.

We get so caught up in the day to day, and regular rest through quiet times with God bring a calm and bigger perspective that is unmatched by anything else.

I highly encourage you to learn more about what it means to have a deep, intimate relationship with the One who is the source of all rest (here’s 5 practical ways to do that). Speaking of connecting deeply with God…

2) Make spiritual replenishment a priority every day.

There are those times when you feel like you’re going to lose your mind. I totally get that. 

It’s been an insane day and are pretty sure you’re going to transform from mom to Mamba if you don’t have a good three seconds to yourself… like, right now.

Regular time in God’s word–praying, listening, just being–change everything for me.

The biggest obstacle of course is time.

But don’t worry–you don’t need to move to a mountaintop by yourself to experience true spiritual replenishment everyday.

In fact, I created the Christ-Centered Easter Women’s Resources for busy moms (like you and me) who needed authentic renewal each day but only had a few minutes to spare.

Check out this video here about them:

Let these resources show you how you CAN have the spiritual replenishment you need… in only a few minutes a day!

 

3) Discover the other activities that fill you up in this season.

Often the answer to what fills you up is the opposite of what you have too much of in this season.

For example, when I was a nursing mom and a mom of toddlers, I had little people who physically needed me day in and day out. That’s why it was important for me to physically take breaks away from my kids whenever I was able.

Now my kids are a bit older and they’re quite noisy (believe it or not, tweens, teens and even preschoolers can be louder than babies!) and I am busy helping them with their school and extracurricular activities. So what fills me up is silence, stillness and being able to create beauty on my own (writing is a big part of that).

Friend, we’ll never ever be able to do everything that we consider “restful” in every season. Unfortunately, that is part of the sacrifice of mothering!

However, I challenge you to come up with a variety of things that would bring you replenishment and that are realistic for this mothering season. Think out of the box and don’t worry if they’re the “right” things or not. They need to be what fills you up, not someone else.

4) Find the stolen moments (and protect them).

“Stolen moments” are those brief breaks in the day where you can build in those restful activities. Depending on your season, it may look like:

  • Reading a devotional and praying for the first 10-15 minutes of naptime
  • Getting up a few minutes before the kids do in the morning to enjoy a quiet cup of coffee
  • Taking a daily walk around the neighborhood to put the baby to sleep in the stroller
  • Sitting outside in the fresh air for 10 minutes while the kids do some independent schoolwork
  • Taking a hot bubble bath two nights a week after the kids are in bed

Those are precious times, friend. Those are needed times. They must be scheduled, protected and fought for. Truly.

We’re not going to get a week away at a fancy spa (which is probably what we all really need!), but regularly scheduled stolen moments (doing things that fill your soul) can make a world of difference.

 

5) Be aware of how media plays a role in your free time.

Alright, don’t throw tomatoes at me, but I need to state the obvious: we all probably spend too much time in front of a screen, and this alone hinders our ability to find authentic soul rest.

This is something I have to keep on top of all the time. It’s very easy, especially after a tough mothering day to just want to completely check out in front of a screen. TV and social media have their place (some days we do need to know that life does exist outside these four walls!), but they can easily become a rest-stealer instead of a rejuvenator.

I’m not saying we need to completely eliminate screen time; I’m just encouraging you to consider how much “rest time” you spend in front a device. Because you and I both know that screens (whether big or little) can very quickly make us lose all track of time.

You may consider taking a break from television or social media for a time. Or maybe you take a break from it on certain nights of the week so that you can concentrate on those things that will truly fill up your soul.

I’m not asking you to give up your Netflix binge watching or those days when you need to escape into Facebook for longer than you know you should. But the question to consider is, “How does screen time  habitually fit into your life?” Speaking of habits…

 

6) Rethink your daily habits.

Habits are the tiny steps that take us where we will end up.

If we want to lose 20 pounds this year, the habit of working out every weekday brings us closer to our desired goal. At the same time, the habit of a drinking a sugary, caffeinated drink three days a week takes us further from our weight loss goals.

I know this is not a new concept (in fact, it’s quite obvious).

But it’s worth pointing out that little, repeated investments in anything produce a result.

Therefore, if we want to sustain a restful, replenished spirit, then we can’t look to rest as a short-term fix. It must become a lifestyle sustained by little habits (go back to step one to see what those habits could be for this season).

If you are looking to set up good spiritual growth habits, check out this post.

Of course habits are hard to form and to sustain! But how important is your sanity and peace? How important is it to you to mentally maintain a sense of order in the crazy child-rearing years?

 

7) Clearly define your why, and passionately fight for it.

I’m guessing you probably don’t go to bed each night without practicing the habit of brushing your teeth, right? You and I have great reasons for keeping up this habit (teeth that don’t fall out, decent-smelling breath, etc) and so it’s a no-brainer. When we get ready for bed, we brush our teeth.

Find your why behind your need for rest. What kind of a mom, wife and friend could you be if you’ve cultivated the habit of rest?

Future pace yourself in that position and really experience the emotions behind it. How different could your life be?

Here’s another example: I don’t enjoy working out, and I never have. Seriously, if someone could promise me a fit body and those same endorphins from cleaning toilets for an hour a day, I would happily do so.

However, I get up every weekday morning at 4:30 a.m. and work out, but not for the workout itself. I do it because I notice a remarkable change in my attitude, energy and creative flow for the rest of the day. On those days when I think, “Ugh… I don’t want to work out!” I do it anyway because I know how much better I will feel for the rest of the day.

Thirty minutes of sweat somehow equals better fitting clothes and a much happier me, so I continue to practice the habit. That’s the kind of “why” I want you to find behind establishing a habit of regularly schedule rest.

8) Get support and community.

Girl, this is not easy stuff. There’s a reason why so many of us struggle to keep rest and replenishment a priority in our lives.

It takes self commitment, yes. But it also takes a supportive team behind you.

What can that look like? It depends on your season. For a long time, I attended a MOPS group (Mothers of Preschoolers) and just being with other moms one day a week brought so much sanity.

Right now I’m part of a weekly women’s Bible study where I get encouragement. I also meet monthly with a friend of mine whom I consider a “spiritual mentor” and she gives me a wonderfully refreshing perspective on life (her kids are now grown and she’s a grandmother).

 

 

You are worth it, and your family deserves a well-rested mama!

 

P.S. I hope you get a chance to check out the Christ-Centered Easter Women’s Resources!

Although the word “Easter” is in the title, these powerful Bible study tools really are about getting spiritual replenishment any time of the year.

 

And, remember, the best part about these resources is that they offer authentic spiritual refreshment in only a few minutes a day!

 

 

Other Posts on Living Your Best Life:

5 Steps Toward Real Spiritual Growth

4 Ways to Cope When Motherhood Feels Relentless

A Love Letter from God (for Those Tough Mothering Days)

4 Ways to Cope When Motherhood Feels Relentless

 

About Alicia Michelle

As a wife and mom to four passionate kids, Alicia Michelle loves encouraging other moms with practical tips for joy-filled living in everyday life, especially in parenting, marriage, faith and health.Alicia is the owner/editor of Your Vibrant Family; the author of Plan to Be Flexible, The Back to School Survival Manual; and the creator/producer of the "7 Days to a Less Angry Mom Online Video Course,", Christ-Centered Christmas Resources and My Memory Box Organizing System. In addition, she is a monthly contributor for several popular family blogs, including Crosswalk.com.Follow her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest.

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