Acceptance with joy seems like such a simple concept, right?
Well, at least on paper.
That’s because there’s always something we can be angry and annoyed about.
It’s seems like there’s always some trial or tribulation we’re going through!
And some days those tough mothering days can certainly keep us tied up in frustration (and very far from acceptance with joy)!
But acceptance with joy can we life-changing. Seriously.
I know because I’ve experienced this transformation in my life. I want to show you how acceptance with joy can change your circumstances too!
Why I’m Choosing Acceptance with Joy (and You Can Too)
The sad truth is that we moms are surrounded by so many opportunities to be depressed, annoyed and angry about our current circumstances.
Here’s my current list of reasons why I could choose to be angry:
- I look around my house and see stained carpets that really need to be replaced.
- I look outside and see that my yard desperately needs a trim.
- I just watched my preschooler spill strawberry smoothie down his brand new shirt.
- My husband calls: “Did you forget that we had an appointment together at 10 a.m. with the doctor?”
- And I sigh as I hear my kids fighting—again—in the other room over that same darn issue.
Our messy family lives rarely reflect the Pinterest-perfect images we see online, and it can seem downright impossible to accept our circumstances with joy!
Our life’s overwhelming imperfections can make us want to lock ourselves in the bathroom for several hours with an extra large, carmel-drenched coffee drink (make mine decaf, please).
So the first thing I want you to know is that I get it. I really, really do.
Why Choosing Acceptance with Joy Makes All the Difference
It can be extremely difficult to choose joy when our everyday issues seem never-ending and, some days, unbelievably difficult.
But we must. We must.
If we want to experience true freedom and peace, we must deliberately decide–one moment at a time–to let acceptance with joy reign.
How can we journey from anger to acceptance with joy? That’s an entirely different post (I even wrote an online course on that topic)!
Today, let’s just talk about the reasons why acceptance with joy is so important and how it can change your life today.
3 Areas Where Acceptance with Joy Can Change Your Life Too
Let me share 3 simple areas where acceptance with joy can bring real peace to your life, starting right now. I’ve included action items for how you can apply acceptance with joy in this situation.
1) Acceptance with Joy Is a Blessing Through Life’s Transitions
Sometimes there isn’t a 5-step solution to life’s problems. Hard times can be messy and complicated, and sometimes the best thing we can do is accept our challenging circumstances with joy.
Action Items to Experience Acceptance with Joy:
- Instead of bemoaning the wait, choose to discover what you can learn about yourself and others through the transition. God promises blessings and joy through the trials, so use acceptance with joy to dig deep and look for them!
- What are your daily thoughts about this difficult life transition? Analyze your regular thought patterns so that, instead of allowing the in-between places to bring frustration, you can discover the rich beauty found through transition.
2) Acceptance with Joy Is a Way to Trust God More Deeply
Jesus taught us much about acceptance as an opportunity for deeper trust in God.
In the Garden of Gethsemane, Jesus wrestled with the agony of choosing to go to the cross. He didn’t have to accept that His fate was to be a sacrifice for all. He, being God, had the power to not accept it. But He chose God’s way because although he understood the cost of his decision, he also understood fully the wholeness and perfection that comes with accepting God’s way.
And that’s a lesson for us, friends.
Action Items to Experience Acceptance with Joy:
- If I believe that God is in control of every part of my life, then shouldn’t I accept that what’s happening right now is somehow part of his bigger plan? What purpose is there is fighting and complaining about it, especially if I truly believe that He is in control?
- How is this difficult experience causing me to trust God more, and thus, bring rich spiritual blessing into my life?
3) Acceptance with Joy Can Be an Awesome Motivator for Change
Acceptance with joy doesn’t mean settling, however. Acceptance with joy can be what spurs us toward change.
In fact, acceptance itself is often the first step to change. We must first accept, “Hey, I’ve gained a bit of weight” before we can be fully committed to a new exercise plan and healthier diet.
If we lean too much on being content with everything as it is, we lose the God-given ability to make much-needed improvement in our lives; and if we focus too heartily on change, then we miss the power of resting in his omnipotence.
It’s a daily–and difficult—tension, but ultimately, acceptance with joy means finding the ability to be content with whatever the day brings and yet still find opportunities for there to be a better way.
Action Item to Experience Acceptance with Joy:
- Ask yourself: Am I having a hard time accepting my circumstances with joy because I know that some real changes need to be made in my life?
One Final Truth About Acceptance with Joy
Acceptance can be done as a drudgery—as an “I have to” act. But this isn’t the answer because then we’re simply replacing our frustration over the situation with an obligation to trudge through.
Don’t get me wrong: Acceptance with joy isn’t a natural response (especially when you first start practicing it). You may have to fake-it-till-you-make-it at first.
But eventually the best kind of acceptance—the kind that brings lasting life and peace—will be found when joy is the source.
Bible Verses on Acceptance with Joy
I challenge you to read through these four Bible verses and use a inductive Bible study method like the 5 Rs Bible Study Method™ I’ve created to gain a deeper understanding of what God wants to say to you about acceptance with joy.
P.S. Maybe you’re wondering: Is it possible to always “count it all joy” (as it mentions in James 1:2-4)? I wrote an entire post about that! Read how I’m learning to count it all joy in all circumstances.
My prayer is that you will begin today to let the simple-but-powerful phrase “acceptance with joy” bring new peace and hope to your mothering!
The Connection Between Anger and Acceptance with Joy
Is acceptance with joy something you really need to work on?
I’m guessing that you also struggle with anger from time to time, right?
Here’s what I’ve learned about the connection between acceptance with joy and anger:
It’s nearly impossible to discover acceptance with joy when you’re also struggling with ongoing anger.
We must discover what’s triggering your anger (and how to deal with the emotions) in order to really help you experience acceptance with joy.
Why not join us for the “7 Days to a Less Angry Mom” course so that we can explore this concept further?
I’ve helped hundreds of moms like you deal with these ongoing anger issues (and discover lasting joy–even
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