17 Conversation Starters for Couples (+ Cheat Sheet!)

Do you need to talk to your spouse about something that’s bothering you (but you don’t know how to start the conversation)?

It happens all the time in marriage. And that’s when conversation starters for couples can really come in handy.

We must talk through these tough marriage issues if we want our marriages to stay healthy.

Here’s how to have meaningful marriage conversations (plus a list of 17 great conversation starters for married couples)!


Sometimes things just don’t feel right in my marriage… and I usually realize that there’s some unresolved emotions we need to talk about. Ever feel that way too? Here are 17 conversation starters you can use to discuss those everyday marriage issues.

Why Every Couple Needs Good Conversation Starters

1) Conversation starters for married couples will help you break through the walls that may be forming in your marriage.

2) My husband and I have found that good conversation starters are helpful because they give us a starting point to talk about tough marriage topics.

3) Good marriage conversations are the foundation for a great marriage because they help couples release any negative feelings that may develop from everyday marriage hurts.

4) Conversation starters for tough marriage issues are essential for any couple who desires an authentic, growing marriage that stays strong for the long haul.

Side note: My grandparents were married for over 71 years and my grandmother will tell you that she and my grandpa didn’t have a perfect marriage, but that what kept them strong was that they were always willing to work out their differences.

They also laughed together. A lot. But that’s an entirely different post. :

Their marriage has greatly influenced many people in my family. Watch this video to hear me share their story (and learn more about how a strong, healthy marriage can influence generations).

It will encourage you to keep your marriage strong too!


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How to Use These Marriage Conversation Starters

First take some time individually and look through the list of conversation starters here, thinking through which ones would best apply to your situation.

Just pick as many as resonate with your heart (obviously you don’t need the whole list)!

P.S. Make it fast and easy! DOWNLOAD A FREE CHEAT SHEET of conversation starters here.



Use these as writing prompts in a journal, or pray them aloud as you bring the issues before God. Ask the Lord to help you discern the root of what you may really be feeling.

It may be enough to just work privately with God on these emotions. There are many times that I  examine my heart in this way and realize that the issue really is me and that I need to just work on it with God (and not even bring it to my husband).

If it’s clear that God wants you to share with your spouse, do so carefully and cautiously in a safe manner (here are some basic ground rules for safe, effective marital communication).

17 Simple Conversation Starters for Your Marriage

If you’re like me and you do better with pen and paper in hand as you work through these issues (or maybe you want to give a copy of the list to your husband?).

Click here and I’d be glad to send you a printable cheat sheet of the list!



Here are the marriage conversation starters:

I’m sorry that I have…

I feel very loved when you…

I have made the choice to ____________ and I see how that has brought _______________

It hurts me when you….

We have drifted apart because…

I don’t like it when you say….

When _______________ happened, I felt ____________, and it led me to do ______________

I feel disrespected when…

I’m worried about our relationship because…

I long for you to try…

We have been so __________ lately and that has made us _______________

I know I hurt you when I _______________ and I’m sorry.

I have been feeling very ________________ lately and I see that it has affected ____________

I would like it if we could________ more because…

I love it when you…

I feel sad in our marriage because…

We have been __________ and I want to change that to be more_________________

Again, if you’d like a printable cheat sheet to reference for the future (and be able to write on), I’d love to bless your marriage with a copy of these conversation prompts!

CLICK HERE to download the free printable cheat sheet!


I’m praying that these marriage conversation starters will help to clearly see what’s going on inside so that your marriage can be as strong and vibrant as possible!


Other Posts on Marriage You Will Love:

10 Ground Rules for Fighting Fair in Marriage

130 Creative Ways to Say I Love You to Your Spouse

Is Your Marriage Headed for Trouble? 5 Signs to Look For

Real Help for Ongoing Marriage Issues That Drive You Crazy

The 15 Minute Habit That Will Change Your Marriage


Did this post give you ideas on some great conversation starters for your marriage?

If so, please pin and share it so others can be blessed too! Thanks in advance!

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And don’t forget to DOWNLOAD the FREE CHEAT SHEET!

About Alicia Michelle

As a wife and mom to four passionate kids, Alicia Michelle loves encouraging other moms with practical tips for joy-filled living in everyday life, especially in parenting, marriage, faith and health.Alicia is the owner/editor of Your Vibrant Family; the author of Plan to Be Flexible, The Back to School Survival Manual; and the creator/producer of the "7 Days to a Less Angry Mom Online Video Course,", Christ-Centered Christmas Resources and My Memory Box Organizing System. In addition, she is a monthly contributor for several popular family blogs, including Crosswalk.com.Follow her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest.

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