The Surprising Secret to Better Sex for Christians

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Where Hope Began for Our Sex Life

We approached our ministry supervisor, who pointed us to a prayer-counseling ministry that included a weekend-long session. With our ten-month-old baby who was still nursing, we traveled eight hours to the event, prayerful that God would show us a solution.

Throughout the weekend, pastoral leaders shared from the heart. They were honest and candid about their own brokenness and shared how they found healing. In addition to group sessions where we heard testimonies of renewed relationships, Wayne and I received individual ministry. We met with pastoral counselors with whom we shared painful experiences in our lives.

During that time of counseling and confession, we each uncovered how events from our past darkened the lens through which we viewed sex.

Being honest with each other and with God allowed His light to shine into our relationship and mend our broken places. As a result, our sexual intimacy went from being the coldest part of our relationship to being hot and steamy.

Adding to our newfound physical intimacy was a spiritual unity like we had never experienced in our lives. Wayne initiated a time of prayer early in the mornings before he went to his secondary job. Very often, we made love after that time of prayer together before he left for his early morning shift.

The spiritual fulfillment of prayer flowed into an emotional connectedness, which lit the fire of physical intimacy.

 

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We couldn’t get enough of each other. We were truly changed. Wayne read Christian books about sexual intimacy and grew in his knowledge as a lover.

He selflessly brought me so much pleasure that sex became my favorite pastime. Through subsequent pregnancies and recovery, we kept making love, continuing to nurture our emotional, spiritual, and physical relationship.

Because we understand the need for all three strands of the spiritual, emotional, and sexual aspects of marriage to be strongly entwined, we’ve since coached and encouraged many couples through marriage ministry. We were passionate to help and compassionate about the pain.

And we know that God can heal and renew relationships in exciting and beautiful ways.

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Turning Around Your Sex Life

Whatever negative, or even life-destroying, habits you or your spouse has become entangled in, there is hope for a turn-around toward a more passionate marriage.

 

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The beginning place of greater intimacy in our marriage starts with our relationship with God.

When King David turned his heart back toward God after his adulterous relationship with Bathsheba, these are the words he wrote:

Have mercy on me, O God, because of your unfailing love. 

Because of your great compassion, blot out the stain of my sins. 

Wash me clean from my guilt. Purify me from my sin. 

For I recognize my rebellion; it haunts me day and night. 

Against you, and you alone, have I sinned; I have done what is evil in your sight…. 

Psalm 51:1-4 (NLT)

The turnaround for David began with his relationship with God. In his desperation, he trusted that God was the One who could purify his heart. He trusted God to give him back his joy. He trusted God to restore his life.

Read his heartfelt prayer aloud:

Purify me from my sins, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow. 

Oh, give me back my joy again; you have broken me, 

now let me rejoice. Don’t keep looking at my sins. 

Remove the stain of my guilt. Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me. 

Do not banish me from your presence, and don’t take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation, 

and make me willing to obey you. 

Psalm 51:7-12 (NLT)

 

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Here’s Where Better Sex in a Christian Marriage Starts 

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If you want to experience a more passionate marriage with your spouse, first focus on restoring passion in your heart for God.

So step one is to learn more about Him and to choose to let Him define your worth. Let Him give you a new passion for life.

God is the One who has made you. You will find the fullness of joy in Him.

Great married sex starts when two people already have passionate loving relationships with God because then those people are freed to just love each other without conditions or expectations.

Right now, first, make your focus be on your personal relationship with the Lover of your soul.

This post is an edited excerpt from Sue Detweiler’s newest book 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage: How to Build a Relationship That Lasts (Life Bridge Press, reprinted with permission).

For more information on this book, go to SueDetweiler.com or purchase the book in print or Kindle formats here on Amazon

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Your Turn:

Do you have a story of how a closer relationship with God improved your marriage?

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About Sue Detweiler

Sue Detweiler is a wife, mother of six, author, and pastor with more than twenty-five years of experience in marriage, ministry, and education. She is also a popular speaker who shares her heart and wisdom internationally on issues related to marriage, family, women, prayer, leadership, and ministry.

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