Sometimes being a mom is the toughest job around.
We give and give and give, and we still can fall short. We often don’t feel loved and appreciated, and we may even wonder if anyone notices all the blood, sweat and tears we put into every single day of mothering.
I have been in that place, friend. In fact, I still often find myself there.
On those tough mothering days there is one thing that inspires me to keep going: He knows and He cares.
A few months ago (when I was feeling especially weary from motherhood’s relentless pace) God spoke these loving truths to me that soothed my soul and gave me the courage to keep giving my best, despite the daily trials of motherhood.
These words remind me that even on the days when I’m exhausted, worn out, or when I’m sure that I’ve blown it (again), God has not given up on me. He’s got my back and is in my corner. He notices.
He sees it all, and He’s not afraid of any of it. Whether I “feel” Him there or not, He’s at work beside me in the motherhood trenches.
Friend, I pray you will feel God’s loving arms around you as you read this very special message.
It comes straight from the heart of God and is meant just for you (do you think it’s an accident you’re reading this post today?)
Today was a difficult day. One that stretched you beyond measure and seemed to tug at your very soul.
You were up several times last night because you heard a small voice say at 2:37 a.m.: “I had another bad dream, Mama.”
You woke up sleep-deprived and yet you still fed, clothed and changed your littlest ones (all before you stepped in the shower).
You negotiated a peace treaty between two warring nations (otherwise known as your two children with the opposite personalities).
You taught, encouraged and shared kindness and truth to your family (bringing just that much more light to the precious souls I’ve entrusted you with).
And as Valentine’s Day is on your mind (and talk about “love” seems to be on everyone’s lips), I want to share something very special with you.
I want to confess my deep, rich, unending love for you, my beloved.
I love you for all the ways that you serve your family. I’m proud of the ways you comfort, correct and console. I honor the extreme sacrifice you’ve chosen to make as a mom who serves her family day in and day out.
And yet, beloved, I would still love you as completely if you did none of these things.
That’s because I love you for who you are—the woman you are deep down in your soul. I created that wonder, and it is I who is using all the trials and tears you’re enduring to encourage your inner radiance to be an even brighter light to all around you.
There is nothing that you can do to take my love away; and there is nothing that you can do to make me love you more. Period.
I know there are times that you feel unappreciated, unloved and (on those days when you’re most transparent) perhaps even unnoticed.
You know your family members would say “I love you” if you asked; but there are moments when you still feel lacking and yearning for more love. Somehow marriage and mothering—even with its glorious joys—can never quite fully fill your heart’s longings to love and to be loved.
I want you to know that I see this, and that I understand. And on the days when the pain of this longing is too much (or anytime that you want to talk to me, actually) I want you to know that I am here—to listen, to bring peace and to remind you of the deeper truths.
Can I share a few of those with you right now?
I have loved you with an everlasting love, and it with this love that I’m drawing you to me. (Jeremiah 31:3)
I have searched your heart and I fully know you, even your deepest thoughts. (Psalm 139:1)
I made you and formed you with my own hands, and I call my creation of you “marvelous.” (Psalm 139:14)
My love carries you through the deepest waters of life. My love assures that when you walk through the fire of oppression you will not be burned up. (Isaiah 43:2)
My faithful love for you endures forever. (Psalm 136) It never ends and will pursue you all the days of your life. (Psalm 23:6)
My love is not based on what you do for me, but rests on you simply because you are my daughter. You can know this to be true because I show my love and kindness to you even when you walk in darkness.(Hosea 2:14-23)
In me, you can be made complete and full, lacking nothing. (1 John 4:12; James 1:4). Let me lead you into that kind of life—the fullest, richest life possible. (John 10:10)
I drew you to myself, not vice versa, and I continue to draw you everyday. (John 6:44, Romans 5:8)
Can you hear me? Can you see the new beauty I’m creating in you? (Isaiah 43:19) Can you see the beauty I’m creating from the ashes? Let me bring you refreshment. (Isaiah 61:3)
Restoration and rebirth are my specialty. I love to bring new life out of the sorrows and sin that once defined you. In fact, these transformations in your life are signs of my great power and love for you! (Isaiah 55:13)
You are precious to me. You are honored and loved by me. (Isaiah 43:4)
You are beautiful, my darling, beautiful beyond words. Your love delights me, and you have captured my heart. (Song of Songs 4:1,9)
My darling daughter, this is my sentiment to you: I treasure you and adore you.
This week, find a few stolen moments to come away with me, my love, so that I can replenish you.
No outward “show” of ritual needed. Just be alone with me and pour out your heart—all that excites and concerns you.
Allow me to sing over you and to show you again and again my deep, great, never-ending love for you, and to call you again my beloved.
It’s my love letter to you… every day.
Your Heavenly Father