Yes, Busy Couples CAN Have Time for Bible Study (Our 7 Tips)

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7 Tips for Making Couples Daily Devotions a Habit

My husband and I have developed some simple guidelines for maintaining regular couples devotions. Again, these aren’t a list of “shoulds” and “musts” but mindsets.

We pray that these ideas might make regular devotional times a reality for you and your spouse, too.

1) First, forgive each other and start new. Maybe your Bible times together have been hit-or-miss, or simply non-existent. This may have caused all kinds of built-up guilt and shame. Talk openly with each other, and pledge to start together from a new fresh place.

2) Determine What You’ll Study. It doesn’t have to be fancy! Sometimes we’ve read a chapter of Proverbs each day and then prayed. Other times we’ve gone through a devotional and then looked up additional verses. There’s no right or wrong answers here as long as God’s Word and prayer play a major part of the time.

Curious what our favorite couples Bible study resources are? Scroll down to see our top ten favorites!

3) Keep It Private and Close the Door. Closing the door keeps us focused on each other and on God during couples devotions. This also models for our kids that time together in the Word is a private and important part of marriage (and they know not to come in if the door is shut).

4) Be Creative in Your Execution. We’ve found that mornings are best for us most days. But my husband travels quite a bit, so we’ve been known to get our devotional time late at night in via phone or even FaceTime.

I love how devotionals make it easy to guide the conversations… especially when one of you is traveling (or, let’s face it–tired!).

Don’t miss our list of 10 favorites at the bottom of the post. Give them a try!

5) Keep It Realistic and Full of Grace. Maybe it’s an especially tough season and three days a week is all you can commit to as a couple right now. Great! Three days a week is better than no days a week. Just make it happen.

6) Jump Back on the Wagon When You Fall Off Track. Despite your planning and best efforts, there will be seasons that devotions just won’t happen. We get sick. Emergencies happen. Or we just plain forget (oops!). The point is, if you skip a day (or two, or five), forgive yourselves and re-start the habit. It’s really OK!

7) Commit to Daily Couples Devotions for at Least a Month. Try it for 30 days and see how your marriage changes! Once my husband and I had enjoyed a regular couples devotional time, we were that much more compelled to keep up the habit. It became less of a chore and more of a delight.

Many devotionals provide daily readings, but what if you want to learn about the Bible on your own? I

10 Awesome Couples Bible Study Resources

All you really need is a Bible and each other to do couples devotions! You could even use the Bible study methods share in this popular post. But if you’d like some guidance and wisdom during this regular time of spiritual growth in your marriage, here are 10 excellent resources!

P.S. Don’t forget the Christ-Centered Easter Marriage Resources! These are a perfect way to get a jump-start back into couples devotions together and to get “spring refreshment” for your marriage!

 

 

Power-for-True-Success--WEBThe Power for True Success: How to Build Character in Your Life

This book is by far our favorite for our morning times. It’s not a devotional per se but instead a look at 49 different character traits. There is so much richness in these pages! We have been going through each character trait one at a time, reading a little part of each chapter every day and looking up the scriptures mentioned (plus any others that come to mind). We also use this book when our kids need additional guidance on specific character traits. It’s a book that we reference over and over again.


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Night Light: A Devotional for Couples

This book, written by Dr. James and Shirley Dobson, is a classic. We’ve used this on and off over the years and found good solid wisdom in its pages. This was especially helpful to us in the beginning of our marriage, but that doesn’t mean that it’s only for those couples just starting out.

 


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The Love Dare Day by Day: A Year of Devotions for Couples 

My husband and I really enjoyed The Love Dare, and this book by Stephen Kendrick is an excellent follow-up book. What I really like about this devotional is that it takes the challenge beyond a short “dare” to learning how to choose to love our spouse everyday.


best devotions for couples Bible study

Devotions for a Sacred Marriage

This is another excellent couples devotional! In this year of weekly devotions, Gary Thomas, the author of Sacred Marriage, shows us how to have a marriage built around God’s priorities. I love how these devotions expand on Thomas’ idea that marriage is meant to make us more holy than happy.

 


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The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional

Gary Chapman’s Love Language books have been groundbreaking in helping couples (and parents) learn how to best love a family member. This daily guide offers quick insight into how to apply those principles to everyday married life.

 


best couples devotionals

Closer: 52 Devotions to Draw Couples Together

This book focuses more on helping couples develop spiritual conversations and connections that strengthen marriages. I love that it’s a weekly devotional and that Jim and Cathy Burns encourage grace and a “just-keep-going-even-if-you-skip-a-week” perspective.

 


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Quiet Times for Couples

This book encourages couples to take a few minutes alone together each day and to connect through the Bible. The devotions are designed to help couples not only grow closer together spiritually, but grow closer to God individually and to trust God in new ways in their marriage.

 


awesome devotional for couples to grow spirituallly

Jesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His Presence

This is a devotional that we’ve used mainly for individual Bible times, but we have used it occasionally as part of our couples’ devotions too. Each day’s entry is fairly short, so we’d suggest looking up all the verses listed for each day and to use a concordance (or just the ones that the Holy Spirit leads us to).


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NLT Comprehensive Concordance

Yes, this a concordance. It’s not as exciting (or as direct) as a devotional, but sometimes we’ve found ourselves just wanting to study a specific topic that would help us grow in our understanding of God or grow in our marriage/parenting. We use this one in the NLT, but of course there are others available in the New International VersionKing James Version, or other Bible versions.


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My Utmost for His Highest and
Streams in the Desert

These are both devotional classics that we use for both our personal and couple devotional time.

 


I know you’ll love these Bible study resources! Check them out!

Other Posts on Growing in Marriage or Growing Spiritually:

When Chronic Illness Invades Your Marriage

26 Ways Busy Parents Can Have More Date Nights

130 Creative Ways to Say I Love You to Your Spouse

 

 

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About Alicia Michelle

As a wife and mom to four passionate kids, Alicia Michelle loves encouraging other moms with practical tips for joy-filled living in everyday life, especially in parenting, marriage, faith and health.Alicia is the owner/editor of Your Vibrant Family; the author of Plan to Be Flexible, The Back to School Survival Manual; and the creator/producer of the "7 Days to a Less Angry Mom Online Video Course,", Christ-Centered Christmas Resources and My Memory Box Organizing System. In addition, she is a monthly contributor for several popular family blogs, including Crosswalk.com.Follow her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest.

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Bradleigh@WideMeadow - March 16, 2016 Reply

Pinned! This is helpful. It’s so easy to let the busy-ness of life push out this important thing, and I think structure is key. Something that helps us is to keep the Bible on the nightstand, that way, when we’ve forgotten all about our devo time, we see the Bible when we climb into bed and are reminded.

    Alicia Michelle - March 18, 2016 Reply

    True, Bradleigh! It easy to let our busy schedules push out our time with God together. I think grace with each other around this issue is critical too. We try to make devotions together something we do several times a week, but there are seasons where we get out of the habit. However, when we get out of the habit, we simply pick it back up again. Thanks for your idea about keeping the Bible on the nightstand as a reminder! That’s great!

Melissa Ruddy - May 25, 2016 Reply

This sounds like a great way to connect spiritually and as a couple. Thanks for sharing your thoughts

Jessica - May 26, 2016 Reply

It is so easy to push the most important things (God & Marriage) to the side for the mundane. My husband and I have talked about doing daily devotionals for a long time, but we just keep the excuses rolling…example- the dishes and the toddler need to be washed… I am looking into Closer now that you have suggested it and hopefully we can start building on this habit together! Thank you!

    Alicia Michelle - May 27, 2016 Reply

    Yay! Fantastic! I’m so glad to hear this. It is so easy to let it slip by… but such a blessing when we can make it part of our routine. Keep grace as part of it so that it doesn’t become “just one more thing to do” but something that you long to do together. Blessings!

Janice | MostlyBlogging - May 31, 2016 Reply

Blogging can be time consuming, so your tips are needed.
Thank you for bringing your post to the Pit Stop last week.
Janice, Pit Stop Crew

Aimee Imbeau - June 2, 2016 Reply

I love this idea! Both my hubby and I work from home, so this should be simple enough to implement. Thanks for sharing on Grace and Truth!

Rebecca - August 2, 2016 Reply

My husband and I have been married for a year and 3 months so we are still fresh into the married life. Lately, we have been dealing with a lot of life stress and it has affected our relationship in more ways than one. So here I am seeking for a way to bring us closer than ever and I find your blog posts! Thank you so much! Your posts are seriously an eye opener and I feel like your tips are just what we need. With God, anything is possible!

xoxo

    Alicia Michelle - August 8, 2016 Reply

    Rebecca! Thank you so much for your beautiful words here. I’m so sorry to hear about the stress you’ve been facing in your new marriage. I am so blessed to hear that what I’ve written is an encouragement to you! May you both continue to seek God as you make the adjustments to married life! Blessings (and yes, agreed–with Him, anything IS possible)!

Brooke - February 10, 2017 Reply

I really want to read the 7 tips you have written, but when I click “Next,” it won’t take me to the next page (it just re-loads the first one). Is there a way you can fix this or help me see the rest of the pages? Thanks a lot!

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