7 Tips for Making Couples Daily Devotions a Habit
My husband and I have developed some simple guidelines for maintaining regular couples devotions. Again, these aren’t a list of “shoulds” and “musts” but mindsets.
We pray that these ideas might make regular devotional times a reality for you and your spouse, too.
1) First, forgive each other and start new. Maybe your Bible times together have been hit-or-miss, or simply non-existent. This may have caused all kinds of built-up guilt and shame. Talk openly with each other, and pledge to start together from a new fresh place.
2) Determine What You’ll Study. It doesn’t have to be fancy! Sometimes we’ve read a chapter of Proverbs each day and then prayed. Other times we’ve gone through a devotional and then looked up additional verses. There’s no right or wrong answers here as long as God’s Word and prayer play a major part of the time.
Curious what our favorite couples Bible study resources are? Scroll down to see our top ten favorites!
3) Keep It Private and Close the Door. Closing the door keeps us focused on each other and on God during couples devotions. This also models for our kids that time together in the Word is a private and important part of marriage (and they know not to come in if the door is shut).
4) Be Creative in Your Execution. We’ve found that mornings are best for us most days. But my husband travels quite a bit, so we’ve been known to get our devotional time late at night in via phone or even FaceTime.
I love how devotionals make it easy to guide the conversations… especially when one of you is traveling (or, let’s face it–tired!).
Don’t miss our list of 10 favorites at the bottom of the post. Give them a try!
5) Keep It Realistic and Full of Grace. Maybe it’s an especially tough season and three days a week is all you can commit to as a couple right now. Great! Three days a week is better than no days a week. Just make it happen.
6) Jump Back on the Wagon When You Fall Off Track. Despite your planning and best efforts, there will be seasons that devotions just won’t happen. We get sick. Emergencies happen. Or we just plain forget (oops!). The point is, if you skip a day (or two, or five), forgive yourselves and re-start the habit. It’s really OK!
7) Commit to Daily Couples Devotions for at Least a Month. Try it for 30 days and see how your marriage changes! Once my husband and I had enjoyed a regular couples devotional time, we were that much more compelled to keep up the habit. It became less of a chore and more of a delight.
Many devotionals provide daily readings, but what if you want to learn about the Bible on your own? I
10 Awesome Couples Bible Study Resources
All you really need is a Bible and each other to do couples devotions! You could even use the Bible study methods share in this popular post. But if you’d like some guidance and wisdom during this regular time of spiritual growth in your marriage, here are 10 excellent resources!
P.S. Don’t forget the Christ-Centered Easter Marriage Resources! These are a perfect way to get a jump-start back into couples devotions together and to get “spring refreshment” for your marriage!
This book is by far our favorite for our morning times. It’s not a devotional per se but instead a look at 49 different character traits. There is so much richness in these pages! We have been going through each character trait one at a time, reading a little part of each chapter every day and looking up the scriptures mentioned (plus any others that come to mind). We also use this book when our kids need additional guidance on specific character traits. It’s a book that we reference over and over again.
This book, written by Dr. James and Shirley Dobson, is a classic. We’ve used this on and off over the years and found good solid wisdom in its pages. This was especially helpful to us in the beginning of our marriage, but that doesn’t mean that it’s only for those couples just starting out.
My husband and I really enjoyed The Love Dare, and this book by Stephen Kendrick is an excellent follow-up book. What I really like about this devotional is that it takes the challenge beyond a short “dare” to learning how to choose to love our spouse everyday.
This is another excellent couples devotional! In this year of weekly devotions, Gary Thomas, the author of Sacred Marriage, shows us how to have a marriage built around God’s priorities. I love how these devotions expand on Thomas’ idea that marriage is meant to make us more holy than happy.
Gary Chapman’s Love Language books have been groundbreaking in helping couples (and parents) learn how to best love a family member. This daily guide offers quick insight into how to apply those principles to everyday married life.
This book focuses more on helping couples develop spiritual conversations and connections that strengthen marriages. I love that it’s a weekly devotional and that Jim and Cathy Burns encourage grace and a “just-keep-going-even-if-you-skip-a-week” perspective.
This book encourages couples to take a few minutes alone together each day and to connect through the Bible. The devotions are designed to help couples not only grow closer together spiritually, but grow closer to God individually and to trust God in new ways in their marriage.
This is a devotional that we’ve used mainly for individual Bible times, but we have used it occasionally as part of our couples’ devotions too. Each day’s entry is fairly short, so we’d suggest looking up all the verses listed for each day and to use a concordance (or just the ones that the Holy Spirit leads us to).
Yes, this a concordance. It’s not as exciting (or as direct) as a devotional, but sometimes we’ve found ourselves just wanting to study a specific topic that would help us grow in our understanding of God or grow in our marriage/parenting. We use this one in the NLT, but of course there are others available in the New International Version, King James Version, or other Bible versions.
These are both devotional classics that we use for both our personal and couple devotional time.
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