Tough Mothering Day? 3 Powerful Tips to Turn It Around

grace for tough mothering moments

Tip #2: Accept the Reality of What Is and of What Isn’t.

There is so much freedom and peace that comes when we can just accept reality for what it is:

•That toddler? Yep, he’s going to need you to cut his food for him today. Again.

•Your teen? Yes, she will need you to drive her to theatre rehearsal. Three times this week.

•Your eight year old? Yes, she does have reoccurring medical issues which cause you to spend way more time than you’d like at the doctor.

What are you things you need to just accept right now about this season of mothering?

You don’t have to like these things, and some of them probably aren’t ideal.

But for now? They are reality.

“Acceptance with Joy” is a phrase that I’m continually challenging myself with, and I love how these verses speak to that truth (all verses are in the New Living Translation):

This is the day the Lord has made. We will rejoice and be glad in it. (Psalm 118:24)

Offer sacrifices in the right spirit, and trust the Lord. (Psalm 4:5)

Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. (Proverbs 3:5-6)

Ponder these. Let God’s word speak to you in new and powerful ways.

He loves you–yes, you!–more than you could ever hope and imagine.

There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. (John 15:3)

‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ says the Lord. ‘They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.’ (Jeremiah 29:11)

Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end. (Ecclesiastes 3:11)

And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. (Romans 8:28)

When we know deep down in our bones that He loves us (and that His plans run outside of our limited understanding), we can confidently trust his plans for each day.

That truth changes everything! (Read how it changed my life here).

One final thing I want to share (and it’s oh-so-important)…


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Leave a Reply 17 comments

Patsy Bolden - April 30, 2016 Reply

Great article!! Happy Mothers Day!

Kathryn - April 30, 2016 Reply

Hey Alicia,
I was 33 when I became a mama and I have 2 kids! - April 30, 2016 Reply

I had my daughter when I was 32. Two days later I turned 33. I joke with my daughter that she aged me a year before we even left the hospital. Although I wanted a house full of kids, the Lord had other plans. She is my only one.

    Alicia Michelle - May 1, 2016 Reply

    That’s hilarious! I love it. 🙂 🙂 And it sounds like your daughter is especially precious! Enjoy these moments with her. 🙂

Elizabeth Trainer - May 1, 2016 Reply

Yay! My mixer is falling apart!

Rebecca Harris - May 2, 2016 Reply

I was 26 when I first became a mama! I have 4 children now and they are a blessing!

Katriza - May 23, 2016 Reply

Hi! I enjoyed reading this because I absolutely feel like I have those crazy mommy days more than I’d like to admit and I wonder, ” What the heck am I doing wrong now? ” I loved your advice! I got lost a little bit on your page not realizing I hitting “Next” would just take me into the post more (which I love, tell me how you do it?!) but I thought I would be navigating away from what I wanted to read! LOL!

Lauren - May 25, 2016 Reply

Awesome tips! Thanks for sharing

Victoria @DazzleWhileFrazzled - May 26, 2016 Reply

This article has great timing. I’ve been having a rough few days, coupled with the kids out of school for the summer and getting a cold which lowers my patience. Number 2 resonates with me that I need to accept that my 7 year old will be dramatic about her life, my 4 year old probably isn’t going to be the best listener right now and my 2 year old will want me to hold him while I’m trying to cook dinner. The calm life I want probably isn’t going to happen right now. Maybe in a few years time when everyone is a little older and more capable but not right now. Lowering your expectations and pressure put on self and accepting what is is hard but necessary, I think. Visiting from This Is How We Roll party.

    Alicia Michelle - May 27, 2016 Reply

    I’m so thrilled about the timing of this piece! Being sick and having the kids out for summer definitely can bring on the mommy grouch! LOL I love what you said here in relation to lowering your expectations for the season you’re in right now. Yes! So important. Hang in there!

Kathleen - Bloggers Lifestyle - May 28, 2016 Reply

All the help you can give moms is so welcome. Keep the wisdom and support coming.


    Alicia Michelle - May 28, 2016 Reply

    Thank you so much, Kathleen! It is my passion to allow God to work through me to encourage and support moms! Blessings to you!

Lisa/SyncopatedMama - June 1, 2016 Reply

I was 39 when I first became a mother, so I have to stop and offer myself a bit of grace pretty often when I realize that I just might not be able to do everything a younger version of myself might have, and that’s okay! Thanks for joining us at #FridayFrivolity this week!

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