The 15 Minute Habit That Will Change Your Marriage

Connection–real, heartfelt connection–is what most of us crave in marriage.

And yet, the everyday hustle of family life can easily squeeze out that much-needed connection time.

How are we supposed to maintain a strong marriage when our days are overloaded with well-intended activities?

I’m convinced it doesn’t take a lot. In fact, I know that one intentional habit has kept our marriage thriving even in the busiest seasons.

This one intentional habit has kept our marriage thriving even in the busiest seasons. It's a simple change that will bring the closeness--and real, heartfelt connection--that you're craving from your spouse. If you're married, don't miss this!

It’s not much. Just 15 minutes, once a day.

But it has made a world of difference. (I know this to be true because our relationship seems “off-kilter” somehow when we let this habit slide.)

Here’s a glimpse into this incredibly simple (but powerful!) habit, and ideas on how you can easily add this habit into your marriage.

(P.S. It’s one of five intentional habits to build your marriage. This is an amazing list of 5 simple habits that can change your marriage, step by step! You can download the whole list for free here.)


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Ready to hear about our 15 minute habit that continually revitalizes our marriage (and can do the same for yours?)

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Danita - May 30, 2016 Reply

Wonderful idea! Keeping up communication is crucial to a good marriage. What a great way to invest 15 minutes a day. smallvictories

    Alicia Michelle - May 31, 2016 Reply

    Hey Danita! Yes, exactly! It’s the little things that can make a huge difference. Blessings to you!

Marilyn Lesniak - May 30, 2016 Reply

Thank you for sharing at #OverTheMoon. I am looking forward to seeing what you choose to share next week!

Debbie Williams - May 31, 2016 Reply

Love this Alicia. I’ve been married 47 years this summer, and that idea sounds like one that could help all marriages.

Donna @ Soul Survival - May 31, 2016 Reply

Sometimes the most profound ideas are the simplest! My husband and I work in ministry together. Our offices share a wall, but sometimes we go all day without a chance to connect. This is such a great way to do that! Blessings to you for encouraging couples in their marriages.

    Alicia Michelle - May 31, 2016 Reply

    Yes, my husband and I both work from home a lot, and it’s amazing how much we don’t talk even though we are in the same house together quite a bit! These 15 minutes a day truly do make the biggest difference for our marriage! Thank you for your encouragement! And blessings to you as well!

Gabrielle Tyler - May 31, 2016 Reply

This sounds like a game changer! This is exactly what I need and I will be implementing this into our lives ASAP! Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

    Alicia Michelle - June 3, 2016 Reply

    Awesome! I’m thrilled to hear this, Gabrielle! Yes, I can’t tell you how much of a difference it makes for us! Enjoy the time together!

Marie - June 1, 2016 Reply

Ray and I love sitting in our patio gazebo and sharing a morning cup of coffee and conversing about life, etc. Loved your post and will be including it in my Friday Faves this week. Blessings to you and yours! Marie

    Alicia Michelle - June 3, 2016 Reply

    Wonderful! That sounds like us in our porch swing. Seriously one of the best investments in our marriage! Thank you for your encouragement and for including it in the Friday Faves! 🙂

Bill @ The Money Professors - June 1, 2016 Reply

I agree that at times, we just need to stop and appreciate our spouse. For guys, it is especially difficult because it really means being vulnerable in the moment – something we are taught (culturally) to avoid.

    Alicia Michelle - June 3, 2016 Reply

    Great point, Bill! I agree that it is typically easier for women to share than men. But honestly, something I love about these 15 minute chats each day is that, the more we do them, the easier and more natural it becomes for marital communication to grow. The pressure is lifted. It’s not a “I must share now” moment because it becomes a regular part of the day. It’s just focusing on our friendship, like many of us we did in the beginning of the relationship.

Suziehomemkaer - June 2, 2016 Reply

no because he wont. he would just huff at me. I’ve tried.

    Alicia Michelle - June 3, 2016 Reply

    Hi there! I’m so sorry to hear your frustration around this topic. It sounds like communication with your spouse may be strained right now. I would encourage you to chat with a counselor or trusted friend to see if you can get to the root of some of what may be happening in your marriage. Sending hugs… and I’m praying for you right now.

Jess Powell (Babi a Fi) - June 5, 2016 Reply

Lovely post! It really is the little moments which matter most. x

Thanks so much for linking up over at #FridayFrivolity too 🙂

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Victoria @DazzleWhileFrazzled - June 6, 2016 Reply

What a great idea! I know I often would love a check in, esp. after being home all day with three kids. Thanks for linking up with Funtastic Friday.

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Tehila - June 15, 2016 Reply

Alicia! I just love this post and appreciate it so much. My hubby and I have had a weekly date night every week for our entire 17 years of marriage, and it’s been such a blessing. But!! The daily need to “catch up” with each other and intentionally spend a few minutes focusing on one another is so important, and one that we sometimes neglect because of the busyness of life homeschooling 5 children and my husband in ministry with a rather unpredictable schedule.

Thank you so much for this exhortation and reminder to connect each day! We will be implementing it due to your encouragement!!!

God bless you, sweet friend xoxoxo

    Alicia Michelle - June 23, 2016 Reply

    Wonderful, Tehila! This makes me so happy to hear of other couples who are intentionally investing in their marriage too! Blessings to your and your husband!

Gaye @CalmHealthySexy - July 7, 2016 Reply

This is so simple and excellent. Thanks.

Krysten - August 17, 2016 Reply

My husband works long unpredictable hours (he’s an HVAC tech in Kentucky, we have every type of weather). I try to take a nap every day when the kids do so I can stay awake until he gets home and go to bed together (I need a lot of sleep). That’s the only way we can consistently do our check-in. Sometimes I feel guilty about taking a nap almost every day but it’s what I need to do to be the best wife I can be.

    Alicia Michelle - August 21, 2016 Reply

    Krysten, this sounds like an awesome solution for this season in your marriage! GREAT job. Never feel guilty about doing what you need to do to take care of your marriage or to be the best wife you can be!

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Tasha @ Cookie Crumbs - December 27, 2016 Reply

Thanks for this Alicia! My husband and I have definitely fallen victim to our busy lives and I can feel the disconnect between the two of us because of it. I will be presenting this 15 minutes ritual to him so we can get back to our connection. I can’t wait to see what the 4 other tips are!

    Alicia Michelle - January 10, 2017 Reply

    Hi Tasha! Thank you so much! YAY!!!! I’m so thrilled to hear that you’ll be adopting this simple 15 minute ritual into your marriage! I’m telling you… it really makes an enormous difference, especially as the days go by and the habit builds up. Blessings to you and your husband today as you pursue a greater intimacy in your marriage!

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