130 Creative Ways to Say I Love You to Your Spouse

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130 Ways to Tell Your Spouse “I Love You”

These are written as ways for wives to tell their husbands “I love you,” but this list is also excellent for husbands looking for creative ways to show love to their wives as well!

All of these ideas may not be the perfect fit for your spouse. But with 130 ideas, I can guarantee that you’ll find quite a few that your husband or wife would love!

Find what would make your husband or wife feel loved, and do it today!

P.S. CLICK HERE to download the printable version of this list so it’s always handy!

1) Post something awesome about him on social media

2) Buy him a special treat at the grocery store

3) Write “I love you” in pasta noodles on his dinner plate.

4) Help him learn a skill he’s been wanting to learn.

5) Skype or use FaceTime when he travels

6) Fix his favorite dessert (or make something scrumptious from this Pinterest dessert board).

7) Compliment him on his outfit.

8) Write SHMILY (“See How Much I Love You”) on a fogged up mirror after his shower.

9) Share a favorite memory from your wedding/honeymoon.

10) Start a “What I love about you” war of notes. Watch what happened when my husband and I did this for a few days!

11) Draw him a hot bath.

12) Take extra good care of him when he’s sick (here’s our favorite ways to kick a cold).

13) Make/buy his favorite food from childhood.

14) Say I’m sorry.

15) Kiss him unexpectedly.

16) Go on a walk together.

17) Put your arm around him while driving.

18) Say something nice about him in front of someone else.

19) Give him tickets to his favorite band.

20) Let him choose.

21) Send flowers just because.

22) Call him to say hi.

23) Make him a mug that says something you love about him.

24) Clean his car.

25) Take his clothes to the dry cleaner.

26) Replace old photos of the two of you with updated pictures.

27) Fix his favorite dinner.

28) Make breakfast in bed.

29) Take a fun selfie together.

30) Put a love note in his lunch.

31) Share a favorite family memory together.

32) Tell him why you chose him to be your husband.

33) Take him to his favorite restaurant.

34) Text him with your favorite three words to describe him (and include lots of hearts).

35) Massage his feet after a long day.

36) Give him a neck rub.

37) Massage his muscles after a heavy workout.

38) Write a note telling him 3 things you love about him.

39) Tell him he looks sexy in his work clothes.

40) Pray for him. Watch what I do everyday to pray for my husband and kids!

41) Offer to drive on a long trip when he’s tired.

42) Read a book about growing your marriage and implement the principles yourself.

43) If you typically put the kids to bed together, offer to put the kids to bed by yourself.

44) Light a candle with a scent he’d love.

45) Visit the spot where you were married (and a take a photo).

46) Take care of a household task he’s been dreading (My husband cleaned up our (very messy) guest room last week and I literally cried when I saw it!).

47) Plan a romantic date together.

48) Spell “I love you” in alphabet letters (and leave it on the kitchen counter or place where he’ll see it).

48) Make a scrapbook of your favorite memories.

49) Have fun new pictures taken together and create new photo art for your bedroom.

50) Ask if he’d like to turn in early and spend time alone upstairs together (doing whatever he’d like).

51) Read books together on how to have better sex.

52) Book a marriage retreat together.

53) Spend 2 hours alone in the bedroom together connecting intimately.

54) Read (and do) the Love Dare book.

55) Buy him his favorite cologne.

56) If he has a beard, make him an easy DIY Beard Oil.


57) Make him a homemade lotion to relieve aches/pains.

58) Pray for him about ongoing issues about his work.

59) Make a playlist of songs you know he’ll love.

60) Pray for his sexual purity.

61) Write “I love you” in dry erase marker on his car rearview mirror.


62) Take a staycation day together.

63) Pray for a strong friendship for your marriage.

64) Watch his favorite movie together.

65) Play a board game or card game together.

66) Share a magazine article or post with him that he’d love.

67) Fill up his gas tank when it’s low.

68) Buy new lingerie and surprise him when you go to bed tonight.

69) Spray your bed with a mix of lavender and vanilla essential oils to help him sleep.


70) Go on a bike ride together.

71) Recreate your first date.

72) Ask him about his day.

73) Choose not to blame.

74) Create a “love jar”–for 30 days write a note on a piece of paper of what you love about him.

75) Choose to let it go (you know what it is!).

76) Forgive him when he says something hurtful.

Phew! And we’re just getting warmed up! I’ve got more ideas for you on the next page!

Click next to get 55 MORE creative ways to say “I love you” to your spouse!



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Chizobam - July 1, 2016 Reply

“61) Write “I love you” in dry erase marker on his car rearview mirror.”
That’s one of my favorites. I’m going to do it!!
Thanks for this list.
You are blessed.

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Stephanie - July 19, 2016 Reply

While I think that most of of these are loving and thoughtful, my only gripe would be that no one should ever have to make love or say yes to making love when they are tired as evidence of their love. I mean if the person doesn’t mind, go right ahead. This is not be a debbie downer but I think women often times feel as though they just should say yes to sex when they are not feeling good or tired as a testimony of their love, especially if their spouse persists. And that is not right. Again if someone genuinely wants to to because they love them and feel in mood, even tired. More power to them.

    Alicia Michelle - July 21, 2016 Reply

    Hi Stephanie! I understand what you’re saying. No one should have to have sex as “evidence” of their love. Agreed. I put it on the list because there are times when maybe we don’t feel into it and yet we know that our spouse would appreciate the connection. I’m not talking about it being forced or a “must do”. Thanks for helping identify that distinction.

    Sheila - August 20, 2016 Reply

    I understand your concern, that neither partner should be co-erced into anything. Making love/having sex, or cleaning out the garage due to nagging/guilt. However the bible tells us we should not withhold sex from each other, except for a time of fasting. If the stereotypical “I have a headache”, is happening too often, maybe the woman/man should see a doctor about their libido. (And I’m mid-40’s, just so you know I’m not bringing a youth perspective) And there are seasons of life – with young children, where it’s easy to skip the importance of connecting w/ your spouse… But it’s so necessary to maintain the most important foundation of the family – the marriage. Blessings!

      paula - September 16, 2016 Reply

      I totally agree. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

Madhavbhai - August 1, 2016 Reply

Love is God’s gift

Steve - September 4, 2016 Reply

Can we just take a moment to notice that these are all written in such a way that it appears women should be doing these things for men? Sure, men could take the list and replace ‘him’ with ‘her’, etc., but is this another way that our patriarchal, misogynistic society puts undue expectations and pressures on women to convince men that they are trustworthy and worthy of adoration? Is society asking men to do these same things for their wives/female partners? Is this another example of downplaying a woman’s value,/exaggerating a man’s value which is indoctrinated into the theology of many conservative Christians?

…just asking questions….

Sincerely, a Christian man

    Alicia Michelle - September 6, 2016 Reply

    Hi Steve,

    Thanks for your feedback. This post is written toward women because 95% of the readers of this blog are women, and this post’s intention is to help those women to discover creative ways to encourage and bless their husbands. A wife is called to actively show love to her husband, as a man is to actively show love to his wife. This is not a “pressure” but simply part of that calling to demonstrate love. The purpose of this post is to offer helpful ideas and inspiration for women to love their husbands well. Of course, should a man read this post he could glean ideas too, but if a man is looking for a specific post about how a husband should demonstrate love to his wife, then that might be better found on a blog that is written toward a male audience. Hope that provides some insight!

Elizabeth - September 6, 2016 Reply

I can’t read all of these now but I am so excited about this list. I was just writing about how my kids were saying, “Remember when…” and I realized that I have not been making any memories with any of my family, especially since baby #5 has come in the picture, and that includes time with my husband. I really like the idea of printing them out, cutting them up, putting them in a jar and then pulling out one at different times to do that week. I think I will do that! By any chance, have you done anything like this with things you can do with or for your kids? Thought I would ask and thank you again!

raihana - October 28, 2016 Reply

I love what am reading nd am gonna use it.i have been trying things with my husband nd it’s not working.He’s been working late for the past week, it wasnt like that at first.now he has no time for me.he comes home late nd leaves early in the morning.i don’t know what to do or how to go about it anymore.please can u help me?

    Alicia Michelle - October 29, 2016 Reply

    Hi there, Raihana. I’m so sorry to hear that things are challenging in your marriage right now! I’ve found that my marriage is continually going through different seasons that require that my husband and I keep in constant contact about our feelings. For example, my husband is currently out of work and so that’s changed our day-to-day roles within our home. I would encourage you to share your thoughts with him about how much you miss him, and also to find ways to understand what he must be going through as well.

      Tami - January 21, 2017 Reply

      When my husband and I had trouble connecting because of work schedules I found ways to let him know I love him and gave him reasons to want to see me. For instance I would leave a note in his vehicle that would say, “hey Baby, thank you for all your hard work. When we we get some time together, I’m going to give you a massage. ” it works he in time will make time and reciprocate the affection.

HEIDI - February 2, 2017 Reply

#28 make breakfast in bed. LOL Not sure how that works, but it sounds like fun

    Alicia Michelle - February 6, 2017 Reply

    LOL! Yes, I guess it’s just the “making” part of the breakfast. 🙂 Perhaps it could be better written as “serve” breakfast in bed. No matter how you say it, I agree, it’s fun! 🙂 Thanks for sharing.

Brittany - March 27, 2017 Reply

I love everything about this! Thank you so much for sharing 🙂

Anthony - April 18, 2017 Reply

This is nice. However, if it says “spouse” why is everything for “him”? This advice is good for any gender…

    Alicia Michelle - April 18, 2017 Reply

    Hi Anthony! Your Vibrant Family’s main readership is women, so we’ve written this post from a women’s perspective. However, yes, of course, these ideas would work for any gender.

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